Episode 191: Are you coming at things with the right energy?
All of us are dealing with different things all the time. In today's episode, Fiona shares a quick tip on getting in the right vibe, headspace, and energy to come into whatever it is that you're going to do. Tune in!
Topics discussed in this episode:
Introduction
Importance of coming at things with the right energy
Exercises you can follow
Conclusion
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Hello and welcome to episode 191 of the My Daily Business Coach podcast. Today, you are listening to a quick tip episode, and I have to say that this particular tip has been something that I've used pretty much daily since somebody told me about it. About 10 years ago now. So that's a lot of uses. That's what 3,650 use at least. And I have shared it with so many people. I often use it at the start of any workshops that I run. I often use it at the start of speaking gigs and group coaching sessions. So definitely it has been one that I absolutely believe in. So yes, stick around for that. Before I get stuck into that, I just want to pay my respects and acknowledge the institutional and custodians on the land on which I record this podcast, the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin Nation, and I pay my respects to their elders, past, present, and emerging, and acknowledge that sovereignty has never been ceded.
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So I mentioned at the start of this episode that I use this all the time. So these quick tip episodes are a tip tool or tactic that you can implement immediately. And today it is a tip. Maybe it's a tactic as well. I think it's a bit of both, but it came from my boss. I think it was one boss at Audible many years ago. So in 2012, probably when I was so a good decade ago, I had a manager who said to me, always enter a meeting with the same energy that you want to have when you leave that meeting. So if you wanna go to a meeting and it could be a meeting with anyone, it could be a meeting with a mortgage broker. It could be a meeting with a new client.
It could be a meeting with a staff member. It could be a meeting with a bank manager. I mean, it could be a meeting with literally anybody. It could be running your first group coaching session. It could be turning up to a workshop. It could be getting a refund for something, but always enter with the same energy that you wanna have when you exit. So if you are turning up, let's say you're booking a new client and you are a photographer, and you're going to have an initial consultation to talk about everything. And you wanna come out of that meeting, feeling excited and inspired and energized. Then you wanna go into that meeting with that same energy, rather than going into it, super nervous. You then don't wanna leave super nervous. So it's really thinking about how I wanna leave this?
So often we focus on how I should turn up? How should I be when I first say hello? And what are they gonna think of me? And am I wearing the right thing? And did I bring the right stuff with me? And is it the good venue that we've met in, but this is actually about focusing on the end. So how do you wanna feel at the end of that meeting, whatever that kind of meeting is, and then how can you cultivate that energy? Even if it's not exactly how you're really feeling. So you might be super duper nervous, you might be like, “I have to go into this meeting. I'm really scared.” And it's about taking a minute to get really self-aware and literally letting go of those feelings of nervousness or telling yourself I'm excited. It's not nerves, I'm excited, which can also trick the brain.
But it's about really sitting in that for a couple of minutes, if you've got them, or just even a minute and then entering the meeting. So I have seen, I know it was making the rounds on social media during the lockdown. Last year, there was a teacher, I think it was in Japan. I can't remember exactly. It was a male teacher and he was about to go into a classroom and he saw him stop in the hallway and sit sort of standing there and pause. And then he put a really big smile on his face. And then he walked in and I love that it completely epitomizes what this manager had told me many years ago, just that getting in the right vibe, getting in the right headspace, getting in the right energy to come into whatever it is that you're going to do.
I did mention at the start of this, that I often do this in group coaching. In group coaching, you have 10 people on the call and everyone's coming from different things. People are in different time zones. Someone may have just had a huge fire that they had to put out metaphorically, hopefully not literally. And then other people may have had a really cruisy morning. It just depends on where you come from. And even for myself, what I love is before we start the session, we take a minute and we just, I say to people, do whatever you need to do to let go of whatever stresses or challenges you've had this morning, and then come in for the next hour and be super-duper present. I also do it when I'm doing speaking gigs because people can come to conferences and they've got all sorts of things going on in their head, or they have struggled to find a parking spot to get there.
All of us are dealing with different things all the time. And I think what we don't do enough is just slow down and take a minute and be like, “Okay, where do I need to be present for the next,” however, many minutes or hours it's going to take and really allowing ourselves to get into that headspace, to get into the energy that we want to have. So I guess the two are really about, are you coming at things with the right energy? And all it can take sometimes is literally standing still for a minute, two minutes. If you are in a busy workplace, maybe going to the bathroom and just sitting in the cubicle and just talking to yourself or going outside, if you can, and just taking a few big deep breaths and really getting into the head that you wanna be in for whatever it is that you've got coming up, whether it's a workshop, whether it's a meeting, whether it's a conference, whether it's your first speaking gig, just getting into that energy, we all have some control over the energy that we put out.
Not always and of course, there are external factors when we just have absolutely no control and they can really impact our energy-wise. But a lot of the time we do get to control the energy that we're putting out. And I know as a coach, it's my job. People are paying me to turn up with a certain energy and a certain high vibes and a certain solutions mindset in other parts of my life. Definitely, I might have had all sorts of a day and then my child comes home and really needs me. And I need to get into the energy to be the best mom that I can be. Now, of course, this is not to guilt anybody and be like, “you should just be 24/7 happy and get into good energy with no issues.”
Sometimes you're gonna have nerves. You're gonna have anger, frustration, other things, but it's about learning how to control that and be aware of that and thinking about, I might be really frustrated at this staff member right now, or frustrated by this client or customer, but what is the solution, do I want to still be frustrated after I've had a session with them or a meeting with them or do I wanna come out and feel like we are both calmer, we've got a solution we're energized. We feel okay about things and then try and see. Could I get into that situation right now? Could I get into that energy right now before I enter into whatever conversation or event that you have? So that is it really, it's just thinking, am I coming at things with the right energy and how might I want to feel at the end of the workshop meeting session, whatever it is.
And can I get into that energy now? So if you think about that teacher that was standing outside the classroom and putting on a big smile, obviously they are trying to portray good energy, and happiness. Maybe that's how they wanna feel. At the end of teaching that class. I wanna feel upbeat. I wanna feel like I've done something meaningful that makes my students happy. And so I'm gonna get into that energy myself and project that energy. Hopefully, that energy is contagious. That is the quick tip for today, which is literally coming at things with the right energy. And can you take a minute and get into the energy that you want to have at the end of whatever it is that you're about to do? So I know it might sound a little woo, woo. But honestly, I have used this so many times in my life.
I have literally just sat there for 30 seconds sometimes even in the car in all sorts of places in the supermarket and be like, “Okay, just take a big deep breath,” get into the energy that I wanna have at the end of this. And I cannot tell you how many times it has worked. And it has allowed me to shift perspective and to shift into a better set before I go into something. So I really hope that that has resonated with you. I'd love to know if it has, if you use something like this already, you can always find me @mydailybusinesscoach on Instagram, or you can go to old school hello@mydailybusinesscoach.com. Thank you so much for listening. If you want to look at this in text format, you can find that over at mydailybusinesscoach.com/podcast/191 as this is episode 191. All right, I'll see you later. Bye.
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